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लेकिन जब एकतरफा प्यार की बात आती है.......तो दोनों पक्षों के प्रेम में समानता की बात नहीं होती..........

एक तरफा प्यार आत्मविश्वास को चोट पहुँचा सकता है तो इस सोच के कारण कहीं न कहीं आपका आत्मविश्वास स्तर गिरने लगता है।

बेशक, एक तरफा प्यार में, एक तरफ, प्यार बेशुमार है। प्यार, मीठा एहसास .. जीने का कारण .. प्यार इंसान को बहुत खूबसूरत बनाता है। लेकिन जब एकतरफा प्यार की बात आती है, तो चीजें बदल जाती हैं। यहां दोनों पक्षों में प्रेम में समानता की बात नहीं है। यह एकतरफा रहता है, जिसका अर्थ एकमात्र व्यक्ति है जो सख्त इच्छा रखता है। कई मामलों में, यह भावना ज्ञात है, फिर कई बार अगले भी अज्ञात है। जो दिल अमानवीयता से टूट जाते हैं, वे बिना प्यार के जुड़ जाते हैं।
इस तरह के प्रेम-भावना के कई दुष्प्रभाव हैं। आइए नजर डालते हैं इस पर-
दिल यह मानने को तैयार नहीं है कि यह मुझे नहीं चाहता। हर पल एक उम्मीद होती है, जो बाद में आशान्वित हो जाती है और निराशा उसे घेरने लगती है।
तनाव और अवसाद धीरे-धीरे फैलते हैं। कई बार डिप्रेशन इतना बढ़ जाता है कि प्यार में हारा हुआ व्यक्ति भी जाने-अनजाने में गलत कदम उठा लेता है। खुद को नुकसान पहुंचाने में संकोच न करें।
अक्सर टूटे दिल वाले लोग नशे को भूलने की कोशिश करने लगते हैं। वे शराब, सिगरेट, ड्रग्स आदि लेना शुरू कर देते हैं ताकि आप खुद को भूल सकें .. यह खुद का ख्याल नहीं रखता है।

एकतरफा प्यार आपके आत्मविश्वास को चोट पहुँचाता है और इसे बुरी तरह प्रभावित करता है। जब आपको आपका प्यार नहीं मिलता है या वह आपसे प्यार नहीं करता है .. तो इस सोच के कारण कहीं न कहीं आपका आत्मविश्वास स्तर गिरने लगता है।
अक्सर ऐसा होता है कि इसे पाने की कोशिश में, वे अपने आत्म-सम्मान को भी ध्यान में रखते हैं, जिसके कारण आपका आत्म-सम्मान भी प्रभावित होने लगता है।
उपेक्षा और अपेक्षाओं के बीच दिल और दिमाग झूलने लगते हैं। उसके प्रेम की उपेक्षा भी कहीं न कहीं हीन भावना की ओर ले जाती है।
प्यार पाने के असफल प्रयासों के कारण, कई बार खुद को कम आंकने की सोच, खुद को अस्वीकार्य मानने से जन्म होने लगता है।
भगवान को वह भोजन पसंद नहीं है जो आप चाहते हैं और किसी और से प्यार कर रहे हैं, तो कभी-कभी स्थिति हिंसक हो जाती है। अपने प्यार को पाने का जुनून अक्सर गलत हो जाता है।
प्रियजनों में रहने के दौरान विसर्जित होने जैसी स्थिति होती है। अकेले महसूस करने के लिए कुछ भी अच्छा नहीं लगता है।

जीवन के प्रति उदासीन हो जाता है। सब कुछ सुना और अधूरा सा लगता है।
किसी काम में मन नहीं लगता। इच्छाएं और खुशी खो जाती है।
बार-बार उस व्यक्ति का विचार दिल की धड़कन पर हावी हो जाता है, जिसके कारण कोई भी काम ठीक से नहीं हो पाता है। * चाहे वह ऑफिस हो या बिजनेस, इसे लेकर इतनी गंभीरता नहीं है, क्योंकि मन अपना प्यार पाने के लिए जोड़-तोड़ में व्यस्त है।
हर पल, प्यार की भावना की लहरें उठती हैं, जिसके कारण हम किसी भी काम में ध्यान केंद्रित नहीं कर पाते हैं।
वैसे, इन मामलों में अपवाद भी देखे गए हैं, इसका मतलब है, अगर कोई टूट जाता है और टूट जाता है, तो कोई बिखर जाता है।
कई बार, अपने एकतरफा प्यार को प्रेरणा या आदर्श मानते हुए, कुछ सफलता की ऊंचाइयों तक पहुंचते हैं, कुछ असफल हो जाते हैं और दुखी रहते हैं।

सिनेमा में एकतरफा प्यार का दर्द
एक तरफा प्यार को फिल्मों में भी खूब दिखाया गया है। इस सूची में देवदास फिल्म को हमेशा याद किया जाता है। देवदास फिल्म में देवदास के प्यार को लेकर पारो और चंद्रमुखी के बीच झगड़ा हो सकता है, लेकिन चंद्रमुखी का एकतरफा प्यार इतिहास बन जाता है। हमेशा लोगों में उसके प्रति सहानुभूति भरता है। फिल्म ऐ दिल है मुश्किल एक तरफा प्यार पर आधारित थी। रणबीर कपूर, अनुष्का शर्मा और ऐश्वर्या राय बच्चन का शानदार अभिनय फिल्मी जीवन रहा। इसमें एकतरफा प्यार के दर्द, तड़प, अनकही भावना, सोच को अच्छे से दिखाया गया था। इसके अलावा मुकद्दर का सिकंदर, प्यार तूने क्या किया, मस्ती जैसी फिल्मों ने भी एकतरफा प्यार का अहसास दिखाने की पूरी कोशिश की है।
अगर एक तरह से देखा जाए तो प्यार में कोई प्रभाव, अभाव, लाभ और हानि नहीं है। प्यार सिर्फ प्यार है। अब आप इस एहसास को कैसे जीते हैं, इसे कैसे अपनाते हैं, सब कुछ आप पर निर्भर करता है। यदि आप अपने एकतरफा प्यार को अपना जुनून बनाकर आगे बढ़ना चाहते हैं, या निराशा के गर्त में चले जाते हैं। यह सब व्यक्ति पर निर्भर करता है। तो क्यों न इसके दुष्प्रभावों को सकारात्मकता में परिवर्तित किया जाए और एक उदाहरण दिया जाए।

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